Why Love Feels So Hard Sometimes (Even When It’s Real)

Harmony Couples Practice

Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is an evidence-based approach that helps couples understand and change the patterns that create distance, conflict, and disconnection. Instead of just focusing on communication skills, EFCT gets to the root of what’s happening emotionally—helping partners feel safer, more understood, and more connected to each other.
I am a private pay practice and do not accept insurance.
All services are held virtually. No in-person services at this time.
If you feel stuck in your relationships—whether that’s constant conflict, emotional distance, or repeating the same patterns— this work can help you understand what’s happening and begin to change it.
We’ll start by understanding your concerns, your relationship history, and the patterns that keep showing up. From there, we’ll begin identifying what’s underneath those patterns and how to shift them.
This work goes beyond just talking about problems. It focuses on understanding emotional patterns and helping you experience and respond differently in real time so change actually happens, not just insight.
It depends on your goals. If you want to work on your personal patterns and how you show up in relationships, individual therapy is a great place to start. If you’re both ready to work on the relationship together, couples therapy would be the better fit.
You can still do meaningful work on your own. Changing how you show up in the relationship often shifts the dynamic, even if your partner isn’t in the room.
This varies depending on your goals and what you’re working through. Some clients come for short-term support, while others choose longer-term work for deeper change.
That’s more common than you think. Often, therapy hasn’t gone deep enough into the emotional patterns driving the problem. This approach focuses on creating real, lasting change, not just temporary relief. That’s what sets this therapy approach apart from other therapies.

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